Do you ever feel like you have no idea what to do when it comes to being an adult? Maybe thinking about your responsibilities makes you want to hide under the covers? If you feel lost in the world of adulting, you are not alone. There is no guidebook to help you navigate the “real world”, but if you are needing some advice, here are 5 tips to you on your #adulting journey:
Remember that no one has their sh** together (we are all just figuring things out as we go along).
Ladies STOP trying to be perfect and trying to have all your sh** together. You do not need to be superwoman so stop trying to be. It’s okay to feel like your life is a bit of a mess sometimes. We are all just trying to figure things out as we go along. The game called life is all about rolling the dice and seeing where it takes you. There will be ups and downs but you will eventually find your way.
So take a breath, enjoy the journey, and see where life takes you!
Find your tribe.
It’s a lot easier to tackle adulthood if you have the support of others cheering you on. Your tribe can buffer you from the negative effects of stress, can lift you up when you are feeling down, and be a resource if you are needing advice. You are the average of the five people you spend your time with, so you better be spending time with people who raise your standards!
If you are going through a current life struggle, then seek out connections! Share your pain, and vent your frustrations. Become self-aware of how your tribe makes you feel, and use your tribe to your advantage. If you find that the people you spend your time with leave you feeling drained, then leave them. Find the ones that leave you feeling supported, uplifted, and empowered, and spend your time with those people!
Master your mindset to master the game called life.
The thoughts that you water will be the thoughts that grow, so be careful about which thoughts you are paying attention to. If you don’t master your mindset, it will be a lot harder to navigate adulthood. We have thousands of thoughts that pop up in our heads daily, often creating a mixtape of reoccurring thoughts and ideas. You have the power to choose which thoughts become your inner playlist so if you don’t like the tune, then change it!
Become aware of what you are thinking about, focusing on how each thought makes you feel. Learn to catch yourself when a train of negativity comes, and learn to reframe your thoughts to ones that are more positive.
Your yellow brick road is your purpose and unique gifts – follow it!
Have you ever felt lost or confused in life? Have you ever been uncertain about which path to take or which decision to make? If so, then you likely were not following your yellow brick road! Just like in The Wizard of Oz, the yellow brick road will lead you home. When you follow it, you will find clarity and certainty, and you will have faith in the direction.
Your yellow brick road is your purpose and unique gifts. Figure out what lights you up, and what makes you excited. Learn what you are innately good at, and nurture those abilities. Discover what you value in life because your values are your truths. If you follow your yellow brick road, you cannot go wrong so learn to find your path and follow it.
Your greatest love story isn’t finding prince charming, but learning to love yourself.
We all grew up with stories like Cinderella, Snow White, and Sleeping Beauty. These fairytales taught us that we need to be saved and that we cannot be happy alone. Our childhood fantasies made us think that the greatest love story will be finding our prince charming. However, thriving as an adult requires us to learn to love ourselves
All of us are flawed in our own way, and learning to love these flaws is the greatest love story of all. If we do not love ourselves as we are, we might as well throw our happiness out of the window. Self-love is the driver that leads to fulfillment and joy in life so we better learn to fall in love with ourselves if we expect to feel content with our life.